Dealing With Disappointments

Disappointments ..

We all have them and they come in all shapes and sizes. You may experience disappointment in your career – maybe you didn’t get the position or raise you were wanting. You’re relationships – you are upset by something your spouse did, or maybe your best friend. How about the disappointment felt when you go to sip your latte, and realize it was made with skim milk … skim, how awful! The truth of the matter is, we probably face at least one disappointment a day.  If we allow these disappointments to take control of our lives, we will live our day to day lives bitter, and mad at God for “allowing” these things to happen to you.

This last year brought me many disappointments, I did not handle them all well. However, as I worked through them all, I realized there were better ways to handle them. With time, and God’s help, I learned how to handle them in my own way. So now, I want to share them with you.

Take a moment to breathe.

By stopping to breathe, you are lessening the chance of an outburst of any kind (I have had a few of those ..) Take how ever long you need to gather yourself before acting on your first instinct and feelings. Take a moment to think logically before responding.

This was one of the hardest lessons for me to learn, and I am still learning it.

Wait patiently for the Lord. Be brave and courageous. Yes, wait patiently for the Lord.” – Psalm 27:14

I am not a patient person, at all! Those who know me are probably smirking as they read this, because they know. I get impatient if the person in front of me at the light is sitting there even a few seconds after the light turns green! I am a doer, I need to get things done. I am also a fixer, when I see something needs to be fixed, I work hard to fix it!

When I am disappointed, or if someone shares their disappointment with me. I need to take a moment to breathe, so I can realize – I don’t need to fix this on my own.

Bring it to God.

Once I realize I don’t need to fix this on my own. I bring it to God, before I bring it to anyone else, I need to call out to God to help my handle the situation in a way that is pleasing to Him.

But when you pray, go into your room and shut the door and pray to your Father who is in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you.” – Matthew 6:6

Cast your burden on the Lord, and he will sustain you; he will never permit the righteous to be moved.” – Psalm 55:22

When we go out and talk about our disappointments to others before bringing them to God, we are showing Him that we don’t trust Him enough to go to Him with our disappointments.

One Sunday last year, my husband was brought to the ER for another episode. I sat in the waiting room with our Pastor’s wives, we sat there and brought the need to God, right there in the middle of the waiting room. You don’t need to have a special place to go, call out to Him wherever you are.

 I remember going to the second service that Sunday, and crying the entire song service, because I knew God heard me.

Thank God for what He is going to do.

We know that God is going to answer our prayers, it may not be how we want Him to, but He will always answer. Always.

So thank Him in advance for what He is going to do! He has you in the palm of His hands. He will never leave you or forsake you. So be confident in knowing, that He’s got you, and you don’t have to go at it alone.

Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 5:18

And this is the confidence that we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will he hears us.” 1 John 5:14

Do Not Worry.

This is the last part of the puzzle, and probably the one I struggle with the most.

Once you give it to God, stop worrying about it! I know this can be so hard, from my own personal experiences. When real life is getting to you, it is hard to not worry or doubt. Remember, you aren’t going through this alone. You have God, but also find a family member or friend to share these things with. Try to distract yourself from these worries. Here are some scriptures that helped me, and I hope they will help you too!

“Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.” – Matthew 6:34

Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.” – James 1:2-4

“Cast your burden on the Lord, and he will sustain you; he will never permit the righteous to be moved.” – Psalm 55:22

“Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.” – Deuteronomy 31:6

“Nevertheless, I am continually with you; you hold my right hand. You guide me with your counsel, and afterward you will receive me to glory. Whom have I in heaven but you? And there is nothing on earth that I desire besides you. My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.” Psalm 73:23-26

Casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.” – 1 Peter 5:7

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